Stitched from Memory: The Fashioning of the Self
“Young Girls” by Marcel Proust and “What I wanted, What I got” by Rachel Kushner are gentle reflections of childhood centered around societal acceptance, and the ultimate arrival at self-actualization. In both accounts, the speaker longs for acceptance from peers, and this is tied heavily to the way they look. While fashion should mostly be about self-expression, throughout history it has primarily served as a social identifier. Thus, leading to the adverse effect of conformity rather than embracing what is meant to be a deeply individualized practice. Recounting these childhood experiences from adulthood, the speakers have come to value this individualized approach and use memory as a framework to understand how desire shapes identity. Early memories of exclusion can illuminate how societal pressure and socio-economic structures influence childhood development, more specifically, self-esteem and identity formation. Although most parents desire to rear well-rounded children, circumst...